Ep. 8 Our Epic Fights Show Notes
We finished up with our Malibu Open series, and there’s a lot of behind the scenes stuff that happened during this series of podcasts. It included a couple of epic fights. The first one was before we ever even made it to the Malibu Open as we were discussing some different ideas when Jen got frustrated with Lynn’s ideas and slammed her hand down on the table and said, “Just let me do it,” which started a much-needed discussion about necessary tools that Jen did not have to perform her job as effectively as she would like. The second fight actually sprung a great idea we are now pursuing so sometimes conflict breeds productivity if you’re willing to really listen to each other.
- Part of the initial fight really boiled down to a 9-year-old computer that was not able to perform the level of tasks that was needed.
- When Jen popped off and ran away, Lynn calmly sat there and waited for her to come back wondering if this was going to be like fighting with a teenager.
- One thing that resolves the conflicts for us is that we always come back to the fact that we share the same goals.
- We want to achieve the same thing, but sometimes we have different ways of going about our goals.
- What we have found in our fights is there are always nested things going on with us and when we give each other the space and safety to hash out our conflicts, we shed light on the real nested issues.
- What you think is going on, is not really what’s going on most of the time
- For the start of our second fight, it really came down to not setting context…once again
- Jen brought an idea that was not ironed out, did not set context, and was not in alignment with our shared goals.
- From that vantage point, even as Jen tried to back track and fill in the gaps, it was already too late, Lynn couldn’t get her head wrapped around the direction that was laid out.
- Lynn started talking about moving in different direction with each other.
- Once again, Jen had to leave the conversation for a minute to regain logic.
- One thing we know about each other is we have different arguing styles that compete with each other.
- Jen walks away, Lynn fights it out. We really have to balance our styles of handling conflict.
- Through this fight, Jen made the decision to come back and hash it out sooner rather than later because we had a phone call we had to be on and Jen didn’t want to leave with the feelings we were having because they would fester and we would have to long to make up stories about what was really going on.
- It could have potentially festered so much, we would have to start really re-evaluating our positions with each other. Instead we hashed it out and great things are happening because of it.
- That is the power of conflict.