Announcing My New Book!
While teaching leading under pressure to hundreds of leaders in Corporate America (and around the world) over the last 20 years, I've seen several themes.
They feel pulled by the desire to be successful AND the longing to actually have a life. They operate under a false belief: You can either perform under pressure or you can have work life balance. You can't have both.
What's really true? One feeds the other. You actually need balance in order to perform under pressure. And you need pressure in order to truly find balance.
Few bosses will actually tell you this. Chances are the boss is caught in the same false belief. One of the most pervasive things I hear is some version of this: "Saying no is not allowed in my company. We have to do everything. I'm burning the candle at both ends. I feel guilty because I spend so little time with my family. My health is declining and I'm tired ALL THE TIME. I don't know how much longer I can do it."
Saying no to a demanding boss IS difficult. It's a Delicate Art.
Learning to say no will accelerate your success! But even when we believe it's ok to say no, actually finding the words to do it guilt-free is a whole different challenge.
That's why I wrote a book about how to do it.
It's not about your boss or the demands of your company. Yes, both are demanding.
It's more about how you respond to those demands. It starts with how you think.
Here’s a newsflash: Nobody anywhere is doing it all. High-level performers have mastered the art of saying no and they are constantly working on the clarity and strength to do it.
What you say “yes” to and what you say “no” to establishes your agenda—and it reveals who’s really running the show.
Saying yes to everyone else’s agenda and no to your own leads to sadness, resentment, anger, and a life lived for someone else.
Saying no to everyone else’s agenda and yes only to your own is an insular, self-absorbed way to live.
Somewhere in the middle is a portfolio of yeses and nos that are uniquely suited to achieve your goals.
When you understand why you say yes to the wrong things and how to use the pressure from others to face down your inner bully, you will have more balance AND you will perform at higher levels.
My intention for this book is to help you understand how to create your own portfolio of yeses and nos so that you can bring the very best of YOU to the world.